Why Curiosity, Humility and a Dash of Humour Matter in Therapy
One of the most liberating things I’ve learnt as a therapist is this: the more I know, the more I realise how much I don’t. And rather than finding that terrifying (as I might have in my younger, ‘I’ve-read-one-book-so-I-know-everything’ days), I actually quite enjoy it.
Because in therapy – as in life – certainty is often overrated.
Let’s be honest: people are gloriously complex. There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to the human mind. I work with real people, not flatpack furniture. Which means flexibility isn’t just helpful – it’s essential. If one technique doesn’t fit, I don’t force it. I adapt.
Therapy Isn’t a Manual – It’s a Conversation
Over the years, I’ve trained in all sorts – clinical hypnotherapy, CBT-based approaches, NLP, solution-focused techniques – and every time I think, “Yes! This is the golden ticket!” … I’m promptly reminded that what works beautifully for one client might do absolutely nothing for the next.
And that’s not failure – that’s the work.
It keeps me on my toes. It keeps me curious. It keeps me human.
Instead of clinging to any one theory like it’s the holy grail, I see each person as their own unique map – not to be “fixed,” but to be explored with care. Therapy isn’t about tick boxes or formulas. It’s about sitting alongside someone and being fully present in their world.
Respecting Other People’s Beliefs Isn’t Optional – It’s Foundational
Here’s something else I’ve come to realise: people’s beliefs, values and worldviews are deeply personal – and sometimes very different from my own. And that’s absolutely fine.
Some clients find strength in logic and neuroscience. Others draw comfort from faith, intuition, or energy work. Some want practical tools and evidence-based strategies. Others need space to simply feel heard and seen.
My job isn’t to impose my views – it’s to work with yours. Open-mindedness isn’t just a nice idea in therapy – it’s vital. If I walk into a session thinking I know best, I’ll miss everything that really matters.
And Yes – Sometimes We Laugh
Therapy can be deep and tender and raw. But let’s not pretend it always has to be heavy. Sometimes, we laugh. We roll our eyes at life’s ridiculous timing. We find lightness in the middle of big feelings. And that’s healing too.
Humour helps us breathe. It creates connection. It reminds us we’re still human – even when things feel messy or uncertain.
So What’s the Takeaway?
If you’re looking for a therapist who’s got all the answers, I’ll tell you straight: I’m not her. But if you want someone who listens with care, adapts with flexibility, respects your views, and doesn’t pretend to be perfect – then I might be just what you're looking for.
Because the more I know, the more I realise how much I don’t. And rather than seeing that as a problem, I see it as a gift. It keeps me learning, growing, and – most importantly – fully present with every person I have the pleasure of working with..
Sally
